Relationship anarchist So often on these sites, what people are seeking is defined mostly by whether it is or is not a "h--k-p." I'm really not a big fan of labels, levels, and "term limits" (neither long nor short) for relationships. The "only's" and "more-than's" are something I really don't relate to...like, at all. What if we shed all those levels and types and such and just be...you know...humans? Bizarre, alien concept, I know. It's about depth, not time, and I can't emphasize that nearly enough! I think if I had to pick some sort of "ideal situation," it would be a cluster or web or tribe or something (not sure what to call it), which is very well-aligned but organized fluidly/con-------ly and non-hierarchically. To me, polyamory is NOT a "lifestyle," a sort of extra feature I've attached to my life, to be kept at arms'-length and thought of as "The Lifestyle." I'm polyamorous about everything, including people. I have never felt truly monogamous, though I've had more experience being one of many partners rather than "having" more than one (I so hate how that word sounds!). A close male friend and I were once involved in a sort of triad thing with a woman, several years ago, and we would consider such a thing again if we met someone well-aligned with us, though I am not specifically here only for that. I guess I should mention that I'm really, really not into any sort of "power play," dominance, or submission (non-hierarchical really does mean just that). I'm on a few other sites here, in case you're curious. I have some very liberal views about some things that, frankly, most people in this society don't share, and it would be nice to find others who do share them.